• Apytele@sh.itjust.works
      2577·
      3 months ago

      As someone into this, you have to find men who are respectful enough to stop if things are moving too fast or you’re not lubed up enough yet, and that’s difficult for a bunch of different but interrelated reasons, one of them just being that finding multiple trustworthy people is just statistically less likely than finding one trustworthy person even before you factor in gender dynamics.

      I’ve noticed even the most sexually respectful men have at least a tiny pain kink, even if it’s just a little bit of an “oof” or squeak from going in too hard or fast because it makes them feel like their dick is bigger. 90% of the time that’s not really a problem (and sometimes you really do just want to get fucking pounded and feel that stretch so it works out for everybody) but a first DP really needs to be taken slow. And that’s even just from a logistics standpoint and even if you’ve practiced with dildos because you can put a dildo at any angle you damn well please but a dick is attached to a wholeass person that has their own comfort needs including what angles can be held and for how long.

      So you need to find men you trust enough to not get carried away and be constantly checking in even nonverbally that your body is relaxed and you’re not wincing or moaning in the wrong way despite the fact that they’re doing this absolutely wild and taboo act and it’s hard to find one guy like that, and generally men that care that much about your wellbeing are also the men who are staying around for a long-term relationship, and THOSE men are almost to a man monogamous. So you can almost definitely find one guy that’s willing to go slow enough for anal to be enjoyable, or to insert a dildo into your vagina or anus while also fucking you but the guys who are respectful enough for that to actually be enjoyable are rarely the ones who want to share. Last time I was even in a threeway it was the dude that wound up getting doubled so like.

      • loie@lemmy.world
        78·
        3 months ago

        Did not expect to learn this today.

        Or any day really but definitely not today

        • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
          126·
          3 months ago

          A shocking number of women are just absolute fucking freaks once you remove the consequences of being a freak, namely both intentional and unintentional physical injury, but also social consequences and unwanted pregnancy. Because I’m so open about this kind of thing I actually get a lot of women asking for advice on stuff like anal or restraints. Those women are out there, and dare I say even common, they just have to feel safe enough to let that shit out. When you make sure it’s completely her choice and she knows you’ll do everything in your power to make sure it doesn’t hurt and she’ll have the utmost privacy and won’t be forced to carry an unwanted pregnancy you might be shocked what many women will even ask to do.

          TL;DR: all the weird dudes throughout history just running hogwild with rampant control / domination fetishes primarily distributed through religious extremism ruined sex for the rest of you. I was raised by fundies and a buuunch of them are hiding some pretty wild kinks under all that Bible thumping. The dude who was advocating for mutilating baby penises and made most of his money selling breakfast cereal also invented a special chair for blasting several gallons of yogurt up your butt over the course of just a few minutes, and somehow all in the name of sexual purity.

      • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        271·
        3 months ago

        Damn, reading this makes me feel lucky to be part of a kink/sex community that has a lot of respectful guys. I wanna do it but I’ve not done anal even, so we shall see.

        • theangryseal@lemmy.world
          11·
          3 months ago

          Reading this just reminds me how vanilla I am. Like, I’ll watch y’all get down for four minutes on video one Tuesday a month, but naaah, I’m good on the actually being there and being a part of it part.

          • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
            41·
            3 months ago

            Lol, why specifically on a Tuesday?

            Nothing wrong with vanilla, if you’re happy with what you are, that’s all that counts.

            I enjoy the excitement of group sex and having sex with different partners. I don’t orgasm with other people, so for me it’s just the novel excitement and intimacy. But because I enjoy it doesn’t mean anyone else needs to.

        • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
          21·
          3 months ago

          It’s mostly me cussing out the government for not paying me or my coworkers enough to really provide good mental health care and weird historical and multicultural funeral traditions. Sometimes there’s some overlap though, like in some parts of the world its customary to hire strippers for funerals.

      • MTK@lemmy.world
        111·
        3 months ago

        I didn’t think pain kink is common. As a guy, if my partner seems in pain I instantly lose half my erection out of worry that I hurt them.

        Which is a real problem when your partner’s pleasured face is the same as their pained face.

    • Mr_Blott@feddit.uk
      1099·
      3 months ago

      It’s “could have”, amigo. Never, ever “could of”

      Wait, unless you want to say “Could ‘of’ be the word you’re looking for?”

      Ok in that one case. But that needs the little quote mark thingies. So no, never, ever “could of”

      • AirBreather@lemmy.world
        132·
        3 months ago

        I could of course say this as well. It’s clearer with additional punctuation like “I could, of course, […]”, but I don’t think the comma-free version is technically incorrect (anymore, if it ever was).

        • Mr_Blott@feddit.uk
          4·
          3 months ago

          Excellent example!

          I’m wracking my brains trying to think of another but I think you got the best one!

    • shneancy@lemmy.world
      11·
      3 months ago

      that depends on their definition of double penetration

      is it two holes at once?

      or is it two dicks in one hole?

      the latter is significantly more difficult and for a lot of people requires training to do safely

  • MonkRome@lemmy.worldEnglish
    751·
    3 months ago

    It looks like this chick shoots porn and is an “influencer”. I assume she was just advertising herself. Also she publicly seems to like Andrew Tate, weird. I think she just says what she thinks people want to hear for attention because that’s how she makes money.

  • Thteven@lemmy.world
    682·
    3 months ago

    Porn stars should use their platform for progress. I would click twice as fast if a video was titled “DP for universal healthcare” or “gang bang to end the war in Gaza”.

    • driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br
      28·
      3 months ago

      During the SOPA act debate years ago, I convinced my sister, who was a porn model from that time, to “censor” the pictures she published on Twitter with a black bar with “STOP SOPA” and to link to a page about it. She actually got a booster because her followers started commenting and discussing about it in her replies.

    • JasonDJ@lemmy.zip
      5·
      3 months ago

      This is the natural evolution of the telethon. It was only a matter of time. Jerry Lewis would be proud.

      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
        10·
        3 months ago

        Israeli society is divided over the arrest of 10 soldiers for the brutal gang rape of a Palestinian prisoner caught on video.

        The video, which has been verified by Al Jazeera, shows the prisoner being selected from a larger group lying bound on the floor. The victim is then escorted to a wall, where guards, using their shields to hide their identity from the camera, proceed to rape him.

        …

        Israeli pressure group Guarding the Soldiers – a new organisation formed in defence of the soldiers accused of rape – was quoted in Israeli media as saying: “The hearing in the high court this morning is absurd and a gift to [Hamas leader Yahya] Sinwar and murderers.”

        Israeli politicians, including cabinet members, have also defended the accused. Ben-Gvir, who is responsible for the prison service, told Israeli media on the day of the reservists’ arrest that it was “shameful” for Israel to arrest “our best heroes”. The same day, Smotrich, who had been among the right-wing mob to storm the prison, published a video message, saying that “IDF soldiers deserve respect” and must not be treated as “criminals”.

        On being asked by Ahmad Tibi, one of the Arab MPs within the Israeli Knesset last week if it was legitimate “to insert a stick into a person’s rectum”, Hanoch Milwidsky, a member of Prime Minister Benyamin Netanyahu’s ruling Likud party, responded: “If he is a Nukhba [Hamas militant], everything is legitimate to do! Everything!”

        • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
          35·
          3 months ago

          russia did the same shit in ukraine, i certainly don’t remember seeing anybody shit and piss themselves nearly as much as they are now, russia is also known for engaging in “russification” just a little bit of cultural deletion going on, nothing to see here.

          And this ignores the blatant bombing and attacks on civilian locations, including their own. Though that last bit might be more historical.

          I’m sure china is guilty of at least a few of these as well.

          like idk what you want me to say, that shits bad, and im pretty sure it’s already a crime. I’m also not even sure how prevalent this is, you don’t mention any numbers or anything. People in the ranks are corrupt, morally or monetarily, shit happens. The best you can do is deal with it retroactively, and if you don’t it merely breeds the influence of that culture.

          It’s not like i can just up and move to palestine and start shooting Israelis, i guess i could complain online, but my opinion is that it’s already a shitty situation and that there are legitimate humanitarian concerns. But beyond that, it’s outside of my power.

            • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              11·
              2 months ago

              it’s really not whataboutism, at the end of the day, far more life has been lost in and over russian/urkraine, than has been lost in palestine from israel.

              You can’t call everything whataboutism, because then we would have no moral framework whatsoever. If everything had to be dealt with in isolation the law would be a mess. Thankfully it’s not, because it’s not dealt with in isolation. It’s dealt with at a broader social context.

              Arguably this isn’t even whataboutism, because whataboutism is a deflection tactic used to focus on other issues entirely, of which i am not doing at all.

              And to be pedantically specific, true whataboutism here would be you guys saying “israel is genociding palestine” and then me responding with “yeah and so is hamas, they’ve stated as such” that would be REAL whataboutism.

              But in this case i’m merely referencing another conflict in a similar time span, in a similar area. To gauge consistency and general thoughts on the matter. Of which there seem to be none, i’ve never seen anybody in IP talk about this conflict, so that’s interesting. Doesn’t really mean much other than these people only want to talk about IP and only seem to know things about IP.

    • trolololol@lemmy.world
      112·
      3 months ago

      Keep dreaming bro, it’s been 2 centuries but it’s juuuuuust around the corner

      Sarcasm apart, I also defend anarchism by being serious. But can’t help the sarcasm part, if I keep it to myself my head will explode.

      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
        101·
        3 months ago

        it’s been 2 centuries

        Glances at the number of revolutionary struggles and the resulting downfall of colonial governments in that time

        Not bad, but we can do better.