• Ð Greıt Þu̇mpkin@lemm.ee
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    9 months ago

    Also the sheer level of sadism that comes out in a relationships story about infidelity

    Everything short of admitting to fantasizing about murdering the cheater gets you called a doormat these days, and victims of very concerted deception efforts get called idiots for being deceived.

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        9 months ago

        which is pretty much every sub for the past 20 years so don’t take anything on reddit seriously

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      9 months ago

      Jerry’s line always cracks me up

      “If you ever cheat on me with him I’ll blow my brains out all over your beautiful bodies”

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      9 months ago

      I remember an Ask Reddit for people that cheated. Most of them were in an abusive or manipulative relationship of some kind, yet most still felt guilty for acting out. Some chose to cheat and be caught because everything else they tried to get away hadn’t worked—obviiusly even that didn’t work in some cases.

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        9 months ago

        Yeah but those aren’t usually the people who get the reddit stories specifically about them,

        Honestly I think that explains the phenomenon, it’s a reporter effect, everyone lashes out so hard at cheaters because the ones they hear about aren’t deliberately trying to escape a toxic relationship, they’re selfish and narcissistic or lead into that mindset enough to destroy someone else’s life over it.

        Honestly I just think it’s a sign that we need more supporting resources available to people, like state run shelters and stuff, because not being able to find security if they leave is what traps so many people in abusive relationships to begin with.