because i was 18, a freshman in college, and just got dumped. i was all down about it and a friend offered me one and i thought, fuck it, why not.

then i bummed another a few days later and so on. bought my own pack within a week.

i posted about having this experience on reddit a year or two ago and people were pissed? but yeah, empty shelves and barely any employees. it sucks, because i used to enjoy going there to see what’s new.

i believe you can do this if you choose and when you’re ready. i won’t lie - it’s not easy, but you may decide if is easier than staying. the dv hotline can direct you to local services, including housing. be careful if you begin to explore your options; he may escalate.

(800) 799-7233. if you can safely search, they also have text and chat contact online.

unfortunately, this is often true in big cities as well.

things are a lot better in that regard than they used to be. dv is no longer by default regarded as a “private matter,” laws and resources have improved.

on the flip side, dv can be hard to prove, especially to a busy cop or judge. and policing is also not a profession averse to abusers.

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i thought you were serious. and then i thought you weren’t. honestly, now i’m not sure, but i’m impressed either way.

what the heck… you’re really super into amazon, huh?

for my own gaming purposes i would agree, but i have seen my son do some very interesting stuff with borderlands 2 and payday 2 builds.

okay, but that made me laugh

i think there’s like a whole subculture around these shoes, no joke

edit - other people in thread explaining it better!

i ran into this kind of garbage the other day looking for a Nicholas Jaar video when i couldn’t recall the name. like BoC, there’s tons and tons of tracks by Jaar, but results gave me one or two of his most popular tracks and a buuuuuunch of other stuff. i couldn’t even just keep scrolling, there were a dozen results and then the “related search” garbage.

ugh, i’m so fed up with google, and at the same time not motivated enough to figure out workarounds. i have work and shit to do around my house.

i guess, with me, they won.

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the bad news is that, despite growing up with pc’s and having had some level of troubleshooting skill as a result, i have forgotten most of it in the last 10 years as computing/tech has become pushy and handholdy. i suspect this is not uncommon.

edit - but i still miss xp. 😔

i’m not sure how this could really work. good therapy requires the person of the therapist, and it additionally takes place within the context of a client’s living. are there therapists willing to give up subjective years over and over and over? how does the client try new things, gain understanding without the feedback of their life between sessions? also - therapists seek information and process their work with clients between sessions.

on top of all this, i’m not yet convinced this would be psychologically healthy for either.

seems like i read something to the effect that DiCaprio made a lot of suggestions to give depth to his character, and that the movie as initially written really was more just-the-gimmick. i hated Tenet; i imagine Inception without likable (edit - or at least interesting) characters would have felt more like that.

i’m often sorry i had kids - not for myself, because i love them, but for them.

i’m glad they’re not interested in having their own kids, and i hope they are able to stick with it. and hopefully none of them/their partners ever needs an abortion.

i’m reading your comments and i don’t have an answer for you. you sound really discouraged. i hope you will find a reason to stick around, and i hope it gets better for you soon. ❤️

i have never been in a serious accident. over 30 years driving, probably 2/3 of it in major metro areas with notably terrible traffic, and i have had maybe 5 fender benders… i would have to really think about it.

driving is absolutely dangerous and terrifying. but wow, it’s kinda nuts that the person in the screenshot has had so many accidents!

based on memory, so a little vague, but examples - access to various merchants in Bravely Default required you to have passed others. i remember this because i was sick with flu and spent a couple days with my 3ds and my daughter’s running/“passing” each other repeatedly so i could unlock everything.

to the best of my memory, some turn-based rpg’s (Persona? SMT? Etrian Odyssey?) would allow you to access customized personas/demons/teams? others had made available. like maybe someone had a really great high level persona (basically a pokemon) with a really great selection of skills on it and you could use it instead of trying to build the same thing yourself, before you might have normally had access to it.

so the latter type thing was cool and fun, but i didn’t get many of those. the first example is a situation where the game doesn’t really fully work without spotpass.

edit - you could visit houses of people you had passed in animal crossing and buy their stuff, too. so you could see how other people decorated and access furniture you might not have access to yet (seasonal, Gracie).

i mean, i hear you on choosing your end, but i have known some folks who enjoyed later life. my mom died suddenly a couple years ago, and she confessed to me over the last couple years that she was ready to go when her time came. that said, i think she was happier in her early 70’s than i had ever known her to be otherwise. and my family certainly doesn’t have money to smooth the way.

i think she just decided to make the most of it, made an effort to enjoy her community and stayed super active. i’m hoping i will handle aging as well as she did.

https://youtu.be/ukAkG6c_N4M?si=6LbXPPh1nd1JB1cr

https://youtu.be/8F9gzQz1Pms?si=FiI1Ox2nVKalwUdg

i find myself using “friend” a lot lately. dunno if that’s a great replacement.