I started a community !downtherabbithole for this kinda thing but written content isn’t as easy to find as videos unfortunately. I’m like you and much prefer reading to watching. There’s at least one text link there that’s an interesting read. I think there’s a long-form community on lemmy too, that might scratch an itch?

I want to know too. Can someone EILI5 for me? If I let this thing scan my eye, what’s the worst that could happen? And how is it worse than all the rest of my info that is out there?

Oh for sure. Unless the other person has lied to you about it, getting into a relationship with someone who’s married with a new baby is not ok at all. It’s just the narrative around this seems to be “Ariana the home-wrecker”, not “scumbag husband and dad destroys his entire family”. The person in a relationship who chooses to cheat will always be more liable/guilty/detestable in my book. Even if it like choosing what’s worse to step on; Lego or dog shit.

I’m no fan of adultery, but as he was the one who was married I think the blame lies primarily with him. She seems to make pretty bad life choices but she wasn’t the one with a wife and baby at home. His soon to be ex-wife has blamed Ariana for not being “a girls girl”, which again, seems to be missing the point imo. She’d been with that dude since high school and he cheated on her when their kid was less than 6 months old? What an absolute scumbag. I hope she doesn’t take him back when this relationship inevitably fizzes out.

I don’t know about the delivery driver. She was married to a guy who was a real estate agent or something like that. They got divorced in January. It was a covid relationship that didn’t last. This guy is in the theatre production of wicked that she’s staring in. He’s just filed for divorce from his high school sweetheart. They had a baby last august. Apparently Ariana and this dude were dating behind the wife’s back.

He looks like the new guy Ariana grande is dating, but surely it’s not.

For what it’s worth, the times I’ve been closest to suicide I no longer expressed it as “I want to die” it was “I can’t live anymore”. I know it sounds pedantic but for me it’s a good indicator of when I’m having a bad depressive episode vs when I’m a suicide risk. Wanting to die means you still care enough to want something, if that make sense? When I can’t bring myself to care about life, death, my loved ones, anything at all, that’s when I need help asap. Everyone is different of course, I just thought it might be worth sharing in case someone reading this recognises that apathy in a loved one.

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Thank you. It’s been over a month and still haven’t quite got my head round the fediverse!

It’s not lemmy as a whole is it? I thought the main url is lemmy.org. It’s only a couple of instances that used .ml.

Are you referring to me as “selfish” “prick” “childish” “dishonest” “stupid” and unenlightened?

That was a really well written response and I enjoyed your insight. As for why I took personally - I was just having a bad day/week/month. Life is really fucking hard right now.

I had to make an active !confidently_incorrect community to cross post this to. It’s c/[email protected] if anyone’s interested.

Oh my god…

It’s true that for an average Brit, eating beef 3x a week is worse for the environment in a year than their annual holiday to Greece.

But billionaires aren’t just taking “a few private flights” they’re taking flights more often than I eat meat in the first place.

I’ve cut down on meat and my water and electricity usage, I haven’t been on a plane in 10 years. I use the car about once a month. I recycle, reuse, repurpose, I very very rarely buy new things. I’m chronically ill and living in fuel poverty. I’m anaemic ffs. How much more are the poor expected to do when then rich do nothing?

So would cracking down on the unnecessary private flights billionaires take.

I think this is the same guy who was arrested by his own police force not long ago for “trespassing”. The guy walked down the driveway of a house he thought was abandoned, the homeowner saw him, grabbed his gun and held him at knife point until the police arrived and arrested him. I’ll see if I can’t find a link.

Edit: I was thinking of another (acting) black mayor of a southern state who’s being stymied by his racist colleagues. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna93318

I was 21 when I was diagnosed, symptoms started at 18. I was told I’d never be able to work, that I’d never have children, and I’d be lucky to see 30. I went to an irl support group and had to sit through a 55 year old woman sobbing because she needed to take early retirement and she really liked her job. At the time it felt so utterly minuscule compared to the loss I was grieving it just made me angry. I was angry a lot when I was younger. I’m 37 now so I beat the odds and I’ve learnt to live with the unfairness of it - and to accept that people like that 55 year old woman are perfectly entitled to grieve for their loss. Suffering is subjective, and if that’s the worst thing that ever happened to that woman, it’s terrible for her.

RE the pain… MEDICAL CANNABIS. I’m in the UK and it’s only recently been made legal for medical purposes. You can’t get it on the NHS though, I have to pay privately and without a job that’s really hard. But it’s worth the sacrifice - my life has improved dramatically in the year I’ve been taking it. I was on a huge dose of gabapentin (sister drug to lyrica) 600mg at 8am, 12pm, 4pm and 900mg at 8pm. Plus NSAIDs, immune modulating drugs, benzodiazepines, amitriptyline, and 3 different opioids. I’ve reduced those drugs by about a third since I started medical cannabis and my pain is better than I can ever remember.

Hope the lumbar puncture goes well - it’s not as bad as it sounds, promise! The bit of back pain you can get afterward is just like period cramps - a hot water bottle will help 🙂

I’m sorry to hear that. As someone who’s been on prednisolone since 2008 without pause, I truly hope IVIg is available for you (it wasn’t suitable for me). I have a whole bunch of rare incurable illnesses, if you need a stranger to talk to feel free to message me. It can be a lonely journey, I’m happy to help if I can.

I’ve been there. It’s such a relief to finally have an official diagnosis, you feel strangely happy when you eventually get it. Just a little word of caution - if it’s an incurable condition there’s a bit of a dip after the initial “happiness”. It’s still better to have a diagnosis than not, but it can feel a bit anticlimactic. I’m wishing you well!