

Fairphone brand is basically saying to everyone “Hey look at our generic Android phone with everything you need from Google, including AI stuff and data collection” and when you ask if you can have a privacy friendly features they basically say “Nope, we just do a phone with replaceable parts, that’s all. Don’t ask for more”
If your state requires ID verification, then most apps will probably comply. You can try Matrix with Element or just Signal with a group.
More more “off-the-line” alternatives you can look at Mumble and own your own server.