I actually like this post. Yes they are political opponents in their family, but it should not split the families, they should not be enemies, instead through love and calm conversations they can arrive to common ground and change each other mind.
Yeah no, you owe bigoted shitheads nothing just because you happen to share DNA with them
When the disconnect is whether or not people deserve rights just because of things like gender identity, I don’t give a shit about finding common ground. The bigoted shitbags can eat shit and die
Let me draw your attention to a sentence towards the middle of this block of text:
Things I have known as sinful are bold and brave.
He’s talking about gay people. This isn’t an argument about taxes or government spending, it’s whether or not people should be considered criminals for being born different. I can’t speak for everyone, but that’s not something I would personally tolerate, especially if I was trying to be a good influence on my hypothetical children. (I probably won’t have children because just taking care of myself is hard enough and I don’t think I’d be good at it, so take that with a grain of salt.)
The issue I have with stances like this is that, well, politics are not inconsequential. Its not like being on different sides of a game, where everyone is equally in the right and one side winning or losing changes little. The consequences to political policy are far reaching, nuanced, and can literally be life and death to some, even if the policy seems boring or inconsequential. Some stances therefore are going to seem so heinous to someone with an opposing stance that there really cant simply be an “agree to disagree”, its more a “we work together on this, or we work against eachother”. And if youre working against someone in a matter that can be life and death, that someone is almost definitionally your enemy, regardless of genetic similarity. Humans only have so much capacity in their lives for close relationships with other people. If you cant stand someone, it therefore makes sense to use that capacity to maintain ties with someone you do get along with. Being born around a certain person is not an obligation to stay with them.
People that post stuff like that aren’t looking for redemption or a relationship revival. It’s performative bullshit so they can get 100 emojis from other loser boomers who over share on Facebook.
“My family has more family now. I’d like to find a way to bridge the gap and see if we can’t start something small that grows someday. It broke and I wish it wasn’t.”
Cutting off contact isn’t being an enemy. It’s realizing that someone makes your life worse instead of better, and acting accordingly. Sure, if both sides are willing to have calm conversations and work through the issue, they should be able to. But if one side (and this poster sounds like it’s them) digs their heels in and refuses to respect the other, it’s often healthier to cut contact.
It’s nice you haven’t had to live this. You don’t arrive in this situation because some mean kid doesn’t like your politics: it’s the result of being unwilling or unable to respect boundaries or civil discussion. Nobody gets cut out of regular family interactions because someone saw how you voted over your shoulder, it’s from being a raging, crusading, evangelizing toolbag.
I’m sure you mean well but I’m sorry to say this is naive as fuck. Sometimes the only thing to do is cut or limit contact to protect yourself and your own family.
I actually like this post. Yes they are political opponents in their family, but it should not split the families, they should not be enemies, instead through love and calm conversations they can arrive to common ground and change each other mind.
Yeah no, you owe bigoted shitheads nothing just because you happen to share DNA with them
When the disconnect is whether or not people deserve rights just because of things like gender identity, I don’t give a shit about finding common ground. The bigoted shitbags can eat shit and die
Let me draw your attention to a sentence towards the middle of this block of text:
He’s talking about gay people. This isn’t an argument about taxes or government spending, it’s whether or not people should be considered criminals for being born different. I can’t speak for everyone, but that’s not something I would personally tolerate, especially if I was trying to be a good influence on my hypothetical children. (I probably won’t have children because just taking care of myself is hard enough and I don’t think I’d be good at it, so take that with a grain of salt.)
The issue I have with stances like this is that, well, politics are not inconsequential. Its not like being on different sides of a game, where everyone is equally in the right and one side winning or losing changes little. The consequences to political policy are far reaching, nuanced, and can literally be life and death to some, even if the policy seems boring or inconsequential. Some stances therefore are going to seem so heinous to someone with an opposing stance that there really cant simply be an “agree to disagree”, its more a “we work together on this, or we work against eachother”. And if youre working against someone in a matter that can be life and death, that someone is almost definitionally your enemy, regardless of genetic similarity. Humans only have so much capacity in their lives for close relationships with other people. If you cant stand someone, it therefore makes sense to use that capacity to maintain ties with someone you do get along with. Being born around a certain person is not an obligation to stay with them.
I did not say “agree to disagree”. Quite the contrary. Read my post again. Serious issues can be calmly discussed and families not need to be broken.
I’m sorry but when the “serious issues” are whether or not some of my best friends have a right to exist, there will be no calm discussions.
People that post stuff like that aren’t looking for redemption or a relationship revival. It’s performative bullshit so they can get 100 emojis from other loser boomers who over share on Facebook.
“My family has more family now. I’d like to find a way to bridge the gap and see if we can’t start something small that grows someday. It broke and I wish it wasn’t.”
That’s what it actually looks like.
Cutting off contact isn’t being an enemy. It’s realizing that someone makes your life worse instead of better, and acting accordingly. Sure, if both sides are willing to have calm conversations and work through the issue, they should be able to. But if one side (and this poster sounds like it’s them) digs their heels in and refuses to respect the other, it’s often healthier to cut contact.
It’s nice you haven’t had to live this. You don’t arrive in this situation because some mean kid doesn’t like your politics: it’s the result of being unwilling or unable to respect boundaries or civil discussion. Nobody gets cut out of regular family interactions because someone saw how you voted over your shoulder, it’s from being a raging, crusading, evangelizing toolbag.
I’m sure you mean well but I’m sorry to say this is naive as fuck. Sometimes the only thing to do is cut or limit contact to protect yourself and your own family.
Old gramps is a white supremacist, this isn’t loving harmony.