To be clear, im queer and im in a relationship with a gay cis man.
Some days ago we were watching a sketch on YouTube about the gay best friend stereotype, where the joke was basically “I can be misogynistic and can walk into female dressing rooms because im gay”. I was trying to gather my thoughts to write a piece about it, personally I have no problem being the “gay friend” to my female friends, but there are a lot of stupid and harmful misconceptions about it. I would like to hear some of your opinions about it.
I think it’s an instance of self-deprecating humor. Misogyny does affect queer men as well.
But there’s also people who are just gross and take it to heart (to the point of sexual harassment). It doesn’t really matter if you’re the titled “gay friend” as long as the friend group is for queer liberation (no TERFs) and it’s not some weird chaser mentality where the intrigue is objectifying queer men’s bodies and sexuality.