You know, I think cesarean is overused but the reason it is used is because previously if the baby couldn’t get out, they had to smash the skull and pull out the body and hope the mother survived. What the actual fuck? The midwife did have to reach inside me to fix the position of one of mine and unstick the cord, which was horrifying enough, but how can a doctor not do that if she can? I have a relative with cerebral palsy from a forceps injury too.

And holy shit, someone posted pictures of the body without even asking the parents? Who does that? Have they no shame, no sense?

I think when the surgery is good, nobody notices it. Two women at my work had to get eyelid lifts for medical reasons, and both came out looking so much better and not at all “done”. Really nobody would ever think they had plastic surgery and even I forget then think wow that was great work.

That standard filler face though? I know the look it’s emulating and we cannot all look like that! I knew an old old lady who had been a Vogue fashion model in the 40s and 50s and she had that bone structure that ages so well, the high big cheekbones, eyebrows that had started out so high she had room for them to fall, I look at those overdone samey samey faces and it’s not going to work. I cannot take my wide round face and morph it into that with filler!

Sunscreen. Retin-A. Sleep and exercise. Those are the way to keep looking good as you are getting old. I can’t understand botox because if exercise keeps everything else healthy how is it bad for your face?

Yeah, she sure does look like someone at least 45 with filler and botox. I think it’s a style thing, she got the filler and botox already for some reason. Perhaps evil does age people.

Wow, his view of what makes someone your child is the absolute opposite of what I believe. Any child I raise is “my child”. Anyone who considers me their mom is “my child”, no matter who their biological parents are.

And, thankfully I’ve never been in a position to have to give one up for adoption but if so, I would say the parents who raised them are the parents, not me.

I really don’t think he’s their dad. If he wants to be a mysterious benefactor who gives them money because their moms used his sperm, that’s not an awful thing to do, but saying they are his children is lunacy.

I sure hope he doesn’t have any stepchildren, as presumably they’d be left out of this largesse.

I was pulled over one for “crooked license plate”, it was a little tilted. Always got pulled over in that car (67 mustang) and kind of figured they just wanted to look at the car. It got ridiculous though.

I would like to know how much of the increased risk of hospital vaginal birth is iatrogenic, is it actually safer to cut you open, remove the uterus, cut it open, take out the baby, replace the uterus, sew you up, than to have the baby come out the way most mammals do? Or is it the hospital setting & obstetric interventions making it so? Please know I would never, ever, ever want to go back to when the cesarean section was more risky, and am very happy if it’s safe now.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2742137/

Planned and professionally attended home birth less risky than planned hospital birth, which implies some risk associated with the hospital itself.

I care, because C-section is much more dangerous for both mother and child, much harder to recover from major abdominal surgery than vaginal birth, reduces chance of successful breastfeeding, and because, since it wasn’t so high in other places, does imply they were routinely doing something to cause labor to stall. Which they were. And no, no way is 50% reasonable.

My youngest is 18, oldest 30. So this was not recent. They are down to 37% now, which is still out of line with hospital standards.

3/4 of mine were born at home, but with midwife, 5 minutes from a hospital, and she won’t attend if you don’t agree to be transferred if necessary. Hospital birth when my kids were born really was over medicalized - the hospital by me had a C-section rate of over 50%, literally worse than a coin flip, they had you lay on your back, still, with monitors, it was designed to fail.

I think now the hospitals have come around to some of the home birth ideas, if you are low risk you can walk around, give birth in a position that works for you, eat and drink for longer, better chance of natural uncomplicated birth that way.

It’s not necessary to take Greenland at all, so there’s no need for a contingency plan. “if necessary” makes no sense.

Sure but you can’t have an endless increase in population. Whatever the problems of declining or stabilizing the population are, they need to be tackled, not ignored, yes. You can’t fix them by saying just keep the pyramid scheme going.

The real problem is more like how many workers for each retired person. So there are other ways to fix that. Personally I’m down with working more years so that people don’t have to have kids if they don’t want to. I can’t imagine forcing people to have children.

And you know what? Employers having to face a tight labor market doesn’t sound like it’s worse than employees having to find scarce jobs.

Fucking overachievers, lol! I want to be a doctor. No, a rockstar.

That is so normal. Come visit [email protected]

I have curly at at the crown, wavy at the sides, near straight at the nape. It all looks like loose curls if I style it.

Still would take this over straight hair any day.

I think partly this is because flattening the hair at home is difficult and you don’t get great results. I actually put some effort into my natural hair (gel, scrunch, diffuse dry) to get it to look good curly, and the only other way it looks really good is professional blowout to bouncy straight not swingy straight.

Or maybe it’s because wavy hair rocks! I do think curly and wavy, kinky, any hair with texture is livelier than the smooth and straight hair. Like, curly hair is individual and straight hair is standardized.

Honestly it just looks like before sex hair and after sex hair. Or someone with straight hair immediately after curling it vs. 5 minutes later. So if he cheats on the somewhat touseled hair person with the I Just Did My Hair person, he’ll just end up with a somewhat touseled hair person again. Maybe even if he goes to coffee with the picture #2, when she leaves she will have the hair in the first image.

My job is ok, but I swear every day I wake up glad I don’t have to go to school. At least work pays me, and the people I work with are great. But even when we were desperately poor I still liked it better than childhood. Even an illusion of choice (as hexesofvexes puts it) is preferable to the tight constraints of childhood. Even when I had nothing but what fit in my purse, no home, no money that felt better, sort of free; now with a house and family I feel like we have luxury, kids, dogs, cats, garden. Lifestyle. All of adulthood, even the sucky parts, feel like my life to live, childhood did not.

I will take being an adult with responsibility over being a child any day. All I remember is ennui and a trapped feeling. School sucked so bad, and no control over your own life. I want to know what sort of idyllic childhood the people who write this stuff had? I wasn’t abused or anything, it just sucks being a kid.

At home if I make pizzas I make one for me with anchovy, onion, and hot pepper flakes or pickled spicy jalapenos and that does usually keep everyone off it, and I love it, my ideal pizza. Salty anchovy, sweet onion, punchy peppers, so good!

No idea. One of my kids likes it, I always block Pinterest results on searches once I figured out how, because I can’t stand that site.

What the what? There is no “none of these” choice? In that case I’d check them all. And in the next screen when they ask how many hours for each, put 100 hours for each of them.

I have never had an account on any of those, did have a very long run on Reddit and a couple of interest-specific communities.

It was the inverse in my house, oldest daughter and I are chiliheads, ex was not, though he was ok with mildly spicy stuff, not oversensitive. So daughter and I go out for Thai food because if it’s just us we can get it so spicy. We bring some home and warn the dad don’t eat it, it’s spicy . He gets stoned and forgets, eats it and was literally traumatized; would not touch anything spicy for a couple of years.